Reference Points


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Good Morning everyone, as you can see I’m at Starbucks, but not my regular one. Today’s Soy Café Mocha is much better than yesterday’s unfortunately I forgot my tumbler, oh well.

So today, I’m going to write bout reference points. Life is all about that. How you do what you do when you do it is based upon this principle, that we have reference points. The below is an excerpt from one of Robin Sharma’s books. It depicts this principle pretty damn well.

“Lance Armstrong is a great reference point on persistence. My father is a great reference point on integrity. My mother is an excellent reference point on kindness. My kids are superb reference points on what unconditional love an boundless curiosity looks like. Richard Branson is a spectacular reference point on living a full-out life. Madonna is a greet reference point on reinvention. Peter Drucker was a wonderful reference point on the importance of lifelong learning. Nelson Mendela is a brilliant reference point on courage and humanitarianism.” Robin Sharma

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Many of us, as we grew up, faced this dilemma, after an exam our parents would say look at the people who scored better while we say, “but look I did better then etc etc.” and on the other hand when I would mention that my friend has this toy or this fancy gadget, they would go the other way and say look a the kids on the street. So yea, how happy you are will definitely depend on what your outlook on life is.

Pick good reference points to drive you to the life you want to have, they don’t have to be people like Mandela, they can be the people in by our life, your mum, your dad, your aunt, your boss. This reference points will help keep you focused on what you want in life, where your want to go and how you want to live. What type of person you want to become. It will shape your look on how your life is, how good it is or how bad it is, it all depends on the reference points you pick.

If you are going through a tough time, read about Lance and maybe he will help you find the strength you need, if you don’t think you’ll be able to achieve your dreams, read about Branson and maybe he will help you clarify your vision and ignite your spirit and self belief. When you find that your little cousin is annoying you, think about your parents and the patience they had raising you.

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Reference points are so damn important. And whether you know it or not, have already have them, no it’s whether you are happy with your current reference points. These will set the standards that you will live by. The person you will strive to be, the principles you will live by, the things you will do and most importantly, it will determine your happiness.

Straight From The Heart

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Tuesday “Should’ve Been” Morning Inspiration 8


 

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Good Afternoon everyone, sorry for the delay in today’s regular post. I’m in Penang now, checking out the Starbucks here in Queensbay. Not the best Starbucks I’ve been to, the Soy Café Mocha is not as hot as it should be and a few other small things they need to work on, otherwise it’s not too bad.

I was going through my gmail account and cleaning up it (culled 8000-9000 emails yesterday) and found a lot of old emails that were really nice, they’re not exactly inspiring but can warm your heart, make your aware of certain things and/or motivate you.

So here are a few I would like to share.

Winners Vs. Losers

Winner
The Winner is always part of the answer;
The Winner always has a program;
The Winner says, “Let me do it for you”;
The Winner sees an answer for every problem;
When a Winner makes a mistake, he says, “I was wrong”;
A Winner makes commitments;
Winners say, “I must do something”;

Loser
The Loser is always part of the problem.
The Loser always has an excuse.
The Loser says, “That is not my job.”
The Loser sees a problem for every answer.
When a Loser makes a mistake, he says, “It wasn’t my fault.”
A Loser makes promises.

TWO WOLVES

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.

“One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

“The other is Good – It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

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GREAT THOUGHTS
1. Some people complain that there are thorns on roses, while others praise thorns for having roses among them.
2. A person’s true character is revealed by what he does when no one is watching.

3. Although the tongue weighs very little, very few people are able to hold it.

4. Falling down doesn’t make you a failure, but staying down does.

5. Don’t be afraid of pressure. Remember that pressure is what turns a lump of coal into a diamond.

6. Even a woodpecker owes his success to the fact that he uses his head.

7. The poorest of all men is not the man without a cent but the man without a dream.

8. The only preparation for tomorrow is the right use of today.

9. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

10. Temper is what gets most of us into trouble. Pride is what keeps us there.

11. The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little “extra”.

12. The heart is happiest when it beats for others.

13. One thing you can learn by watching the clock is that it passes time by keeping its hands busy.

14. Happiness is not something you find, It’s something you create.

15. Nothing in this world is IMPOSSIBLE as the word is “I M POSSIBLE”.

LIFE IS NO WHERE – can be read as – LIFE IS NOW HERE.

This is the reality of life. It depends how you treat it. Be Positive. Keep smiling, it improves your face value…

WINNER VS LOSER

Winners have dreams;
Losers have schemes.

Winners see the grains;
Losers see the pain.

Winners see the potential;
Losers see the past.

Winners make it happen;
Losers let it happen.

Winners see possibilities;
Losers see problems.

Winners make commitments;
Losers make promises.

Winners are a part of the team;
Losers are apart from the team.

Winner always has a programme;
Loser always has an excuse.

Winner says “Let me do it for you”;
Loser says “That is not my job”.

Winners say “I must do something”;
Losers say “Something must be done”.

Winner is always a part of the answer;
Loser is always a part of the problem.

Winner sees an answer for every problem;
Loser sees a problem for every answer.

Winners believe in win/win;
Losers believe for them to win, someone has to lose.

Winner says “It may be difficult but it is possible”;
Loser says “It may be possible but it is too difficult”.

Winner makes a mistake. he says “I was wrong”;
Loser makes a mistake, he says “It wasn’t my fault”.

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Self Confidence

The business executive was deep in debt and could see no way out.
Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment.
He sat on the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could
save his company from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him. “I can see that something is troubling you,” he said.
After listening to the executive’s woes, the old man said, “I believe I can help you.”
He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying, “Take this money.
Meet me here exactly one year from today, and you can pay me back at that time.”
Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come.

The business executive saw in his hand a check for $500,000, signed by John D. Rockefeller, then
one of the richest men in the world! “I can erase my money worries in an instant!” he realized.
But instead, the executive decided to put the uncashed check in his safe. Just knowing it was there
might give him the strength to work out a way to save his business, he thought.
With renewed optimism, he negotiated better deals and extended terms of payment. He closed
several big sales. Within a few months, he was out of debt and making money once again.

Exactly one year later, he returned to the park with the uncashed check. At the agreed-upon time,
the old man appeared. But just as the executive was about to hand back the check and share his
success story, a nurse came running up and grabbed the old man.
“I’m so glad I caught him!” she cried. “I hope he hasn’t been bothering you. He’s always escaping
from the rest home and telling people he’s John D. Rockefeller.”
And she led the old man away by the arm.

The astonished executive just stood there, stunned. All year long he’d been wheeling and dealing,
buying and selling, convinced he had half a million dollars behind him!
Suddenly, he realized that it wasn’t the money, real or imagined, that had turned his life around.
It was his newfound self-confidence that gave him the power to achieve anything he went after.

This is similar to something called a “placebo” effect – some people in medicine trials are given fake pills – placebo – while others with actual medicine.. And it always happens that some of the people given a placebo enjoy the medicinal benefits even though they have not had the medicine – just because they thought they were treated! Our mind has amazing powers we can not even fathom…

Remember that is how you look at life and what you do about it. Whether you belief in yourself, whether you are thinking like a winner, whether you want to progress whether you want to Keep Moving Forward. Shit will definitely happen to you in life, you just have to find the strength to get past it and Keep Moving Forward. It isn’t always easy, but you’ll need to find a source of strength and tap into it.

Straight from the Heart.

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11 Rules from Bill Gates


Good Evening everyone, here’s another one of my favourite emails.

To anyone with kids of any age, here’s some advice.
Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School
about 11 things they did not and will not learn in
school. He talks about how feel-good,
politically-correct teachings created a generation of
kids with no concept of reality and how this concept
set them up for failure in the real world. Love him or
hate him, he sure hit the nail on the head with this.

Rule 1: Life is not fair – get used to it.

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem.
The world will expect you to accomplish something
BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will not make $60,000 a year right out
of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a
car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait
till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your
dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for
burger flipping – they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parent’s
fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from
them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t
as boring as they now are. They got that way from
paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening
to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So
before you save the rain forest from the parasites
your parents generation created, try delousing the
closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners
and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools they
have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as
MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This
does not bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in
real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You
don’t get summers off and very few employers are
interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on
your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life
people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

If you agree, pass it on.

If you can read this – thank a teacher.

If you’re not in jail or on the street – thank your parents.

Straight From The Heart

Saturday “Should Have Been Morning” Reflections


 

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Good evening everyone,

How’s everyone doing? Today has been really good. I’m in PD right now with some great friends, it’s been great so far :) the drive down was great, I had really fun time driving down. Had some great food at this place in Seremban. The pics should be on Twitter.

So as for reflections, this week has been better, Monday toWednesday was awesome, Thursday not so awesome and Friday and today have been great. Been getting back to my “good routines”, expect for the swimming in the mornings. Life is looking good, I’ve learnt to let go of things that I can’t control, I’ll do my best and leave the rest to life. That’s all that I can do. All you can do in life is your best. This somehow reminds me of this line

The price of discipline is always better than the pain of regret.

Keep that in mind, it is a very powerful thought.

This week has been filled with the right steps going forward, yes it wasn’t perfect, but the good definitely outweighed the bad. One of my most precious friendships, that was in some trouble, has turned around and it is looking really good. My good friend graduated from Pre-U. I got back to work. Ivy is on the way (3 weeks).

Looking back, I’ve learnt more about friendship, it’s not always easy, and it takes two to tango. There are always two sides to a story. Respect the people around you the same you would want people to respect you. Don’t dish out what you can’t handle and there are things in life that matter and others that don’t. Make sure you know the difference. Please pardon my language but there are things in life that you just got to look and say, “Fuggitt”. You know who and what’s important to you, and that’s all that matters.

Straight From The Heart

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Friends


Good Morning everyone. Yesterday wasn’t too good of a day but today is looking quite the opposite. Ivy is on her way, should be here in 3 weeks. Can’t wait. :) on another now, a good friend of mine graduate from High school yesterday (pre-U). Proud of you punk.

So I got this in a email, and I really liked it. Hope you will too. The following piece is not an original work of mine.

Friends

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that
Person..

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need
You have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with
Guidance and support,

To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,

This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an
End.

Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire
Fulfilled, their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has
Come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy..

Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,

Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional
Foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson,

Love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other
Relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life,

Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Straight from the Heart

Tuesday Morning Inspiration 7


 

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Good Morning guys, I’m feeling pretty good today. Yesterday was an awesome day, I woke up early, blogged, worked, had tea with dad, had tea with friends, was on form during my vocal lesson, then Noble 2 and I were invited for the Sunway London Summer Musical by a friend and her family and then we indulged in satay. :) pretty awesome day. Oh, and I ordered my Retina Display MacBook Pro with 16gb RAM. :)

Today is the 7th Tuesday Morning Inspiration.

Today I’m not going to post up a video but talk about music. The music you listen to definitely affects your mood, so I suggest that you compile a playlist of songs that gets up pumped up, motivated, inspired etc and play it first thing in the morning as you get ready to face the world. Based on my own experience, it works wonders. This music will enrich your soul, help pick up up when your down and give you the strength to go The extra mile. Have you ever noticed that you manage to run/workout better with the right music?

My current personal favourites for jump starting my morning include Michael Buble’s “Feeling Good”, Flo Rida’s “Good Feeling, Drake’s “Up All Night”, Drake’s “Headlines”, Edward Elgar’s “Cello Concerto in E Minor Op. 85″, The Wanted’s “Chasing the Sun”, Chamillionaire’s “The Ultimate Victory”, David Guetta’s “Turn Me On” and Flo Rida’s “Wild Ones”.

All the songs need to do is pick up your spirits, add some fuel to your fire, make you feel like a God Damn Champion, and the right music can. You will find that over time certain songs will start to lose their power, that’s when you update the playlist. Actually, don’t ever stop updating it. Delete songs, add songs, change the order… Keep it moving. “Up All Night” lost its power for a a few months, but now I love it again. It happens, we just need to take a break for that certain beat.

So please go ahead and try this, and you might be surprised and the range of music that can “Turn You On” in the morning and set you off on a great start to live out great day. Life is lived one day at a time, so make sure you try your best each day and through that, you will carve out your best life.

Have a great day,

Listen to some great, inspiring, motivating music,

Straight From The Heart.

 

Caring Too Much


 

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Good Morning everyone! Today is feeling like a good day, feeling a little tired, but nothing that will trouble me much, woke up without pain and I woke up at 7am. Didn’t go for a swim, that’s the aim for tomorrow. :) feeling pretty damn good this fine morning, looking forward to work at 10, am at Starbucks with my temporary companion Soy Café Mocha.

So I think I can say that I’ve made it out of the Storm, it was a trying two weeks but I made it, and I’m back on track to bring back on track. Haha. Thank you to everyone who supported me and helped me brace the storm and get out of it and I’m sorry to the people I hurt while bracing myself.

Onward to today’s piece.

I am a strong believer than the most important person in one’s life, is oneself. Why? Because if I can’t take care of myself, how can I take care of others? How I can i lead when I can’t even lead myself? How can I help others I care about if I can’t help myself?

I’m not saying don’t care about others, I’m saying that remember that you are equally, if not more, important than the people who love and care for. So make sure you do justice to your life before worrying about others. Now, please don’t take this as my blessing to go become a self obsessed, egomaniac whose entire world revolves around oneself. Just make sure you take are of yourself before you got out of your way to help others. That may work for a while, but in the long run it’s not sustainable and it’s not the way to live your life.

I’m the type of person who cares very much about my family and friends, I empathise withheld they go through, I try my best to really listen to them and I’m there for them to the best of my ability. I can confidently say that I’m a great friend 90% of the time, and if you can find someone from my inner circle who will say otherwise, I will retract that statement. I care very much for my family and friends, and most of them reciprocate, but there are some who I feel take me for granted and this would affect me and stress me, that is until yesterday when a very wise man said to me, “why are you being so stupid? Why let it affect you?”. And that’s when it hit me… I was being stupid, why was I putting so much effort into something what was mostly one way?

“I use to care, now I don’t.” – A Wise Friend

There’s only so much we can do, and once we’ve done our best, all we can do is watch.

“Let one live their life & learn from their mistakes. What we should worry about is making sure, we as a person, keeps on the right track.” – Another Wise Friend

Care for people as much as they care for you, care more if you want but as long as it isn’t counter-productive to you.There are plenty of people in my life who deserve my love and care, and for those who haven’t been doing their part, don’t expect me to call. I’ve had enough.

Straight From The Heart

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